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Connecting with your kids at the end of the day

Grace Chapel Resource Center

 Do you ever wish you knew what was going on inside the mind of your kids? These tips help to have better connection with them.

Imagine this: it’s been a long day and the family is gathered at the table for dinner.

[You] Hey buddy, how was your day?

[Son] Good.

The conversation is over. You are frustrated. It’s quiet.

It doesn’t have to be that way! Better questions lead to better answers.

[Better questions = better answers]

What if your goal at dinner tonight is to know and love your kids in a new way.

Try this: ask about a high point and a low point today, remain curious (we also talk about this here) and see what happens.

Here’s what some questions might look like:

  • What was the coolest part of your day? Why?
  • If you had to change something about today, what would it be? Why?
  • What was the most frustrating thing that happened to you today? How did you respond?
  • What do you think Jesus was teaching you throughout the day?
  • How did you see Jesus at school? (Or the park, the zoo, the grocery store, etc.)


These questions can be for your spouse or your kids. The point is to get past one word answers and create quality conversation at the dinner table.

And speaking of the dinner table, try this out without screens. Most of our day is full of screen time. (We talk more about the dinner table here.)

As the family is gathered around the table, make sure you put those devices away. Even if it’s just 30 minutes!

Try it tonight and see what happens!